“Whenever something negative happens to you, there is a deep lesson concealed within it.” Eckhart Tolle
I have found my life here on this magical planet to be one big story filled with many lessons.
Within the big story there are lots of little stories.
Stories of great love and immense heartache. Stories of repeated failure and eventual success. Stories of courageous adventures filled with longing and discovery.
The story of my life is a magical tale when I am wise enough to learn the lessons that it offers at each corner....
Yet when I fail to learn the lessons, I am in danger of the story going in circles and becoming a miserable tale of struggle and tragedy.
Some aspects of life just feel so challenging that the thought of finding a lesson amongst it all is baffling!
From a very young age I was fascinated by finding morals to any story and I have made it my career and mission to guide others to uncover the lessons within their story.
Along my path I have found two main keys to uncovering the lessons to our painful tales and I'd love to share them with you.
First Key- Allow the story to be fully told, heard and felt before the lesson is clear.
When I was in primary school my favourite book was Aesops Fables. You know the old favourite tales that we were told growing up?
The wolf in sheep’s clothing. The hare and the tortoise. The lion and the mouse... just to name a few of his famous titles.
Apparently Aesop was a Greek slave living in the sixth century BC so his childrens fables are over two thousand years old.
Aesop would tell a tale with animals as the starring characters and he would always end the story with a moral to be learned.
I remember being obsessed with the moral of the story as a child. My school teacher would read one of Aesops Fables and finish by saying, “now children what is the moral of the story?”
My hand would shoot up like a rocket.
“Me. Me. I know, I know!” I would say.
The story needed to come to completion for the clarity of the moral to be revealed. If the story was stopped half way and the moral asked, of course it would not yet be clear.
I have found throughout my life when I have been consumed by a tidal wave of emotion I have often been trying to look for the moral of the story way too early....
… before I have allowed the pain to be fully felt,
… before I have allowed my inner voice to be fully heard and expressed,
… before the emotional wave has returned to the ocean.
When I finally learned to just go with the painful waves and allow the story to fully unravel to completion... then the lesson was right there starring me in the face.
So we can't avoid feeling and we can't avoid fully experiencing the discomfort. We can't hurry our lessons in life. Instead we must surrender to the flow and trust that all the lessons will be revealed in time.
Second Key- Observe the wisdom of nature
Aesops Fable's wisely used the analogies within nature to illustrate the lessons and morals that exist within his tales.
I have sat with many wise masters during my search for truth and happiness but the most powerful master who has helped to teach many lessons is Mother Nature.
We are a part of nature, so when it's natural laws are followed and accepted, life is a much smoother ride. However if we choose to fight against nature and expect what is unnatural... we suffer!
Nature is a duality dance of light and dark, ebb and flow, expansion and contraction, growth and decay.
Many of the lessons that I have learnt from my painful experiences in life were caused by me fighting furiously against what was natural... expecting things to go my way instead of trusting the flow of life.
Nature has taught me to ride the waves, to flow with the river and return to the ocean, to stand tall and grounded like a tree and to trust that all darkness is followed by a new day.
So the moral of this story is...
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