The most common excuse I hear from clients is that they don't have enough time to meditate. Ahhh that old chestnut! No time! Let's explore it together shall we? How true is it? All the busy parents, full time workers, self employed workaholics, social butterflies, people with fingers in sooooo many pies....what do you think? Have you got enough time to meditate and do the things that are essential for your wellbeing?
In my practice I am constantly told by clients... "I have no time for exercise, no time to meditate, no time to make those healthy juices at home, basically no time to do most of the things that ensure the body and mind thrives." Of course we all have a natural ebb and flow in our motivation but when we drop things all together the wellness wheels start to fall off. Our mind and body has such a useful feedback system built in to let us know when we are fully nourished on all levels and conversely when we have starved our body and soul of it's essential human needs.
Most people arrive on my doorstep when the wheels have fallen off the 'peace, love and apple cart' and their time is consumed with mere survival. What we do together is go through their life on all levels; body, lifestyle, mind, emotions, spirit and determine which areas need some focus and nourishment and ta da.... happy, healthy being emerges! They go from struggling to find the time to meditate.... to honouring their life priorities and making time.
So is it that we don't have enough time or do we just lack motivation? Why don't we do the things we know we need to be doing? Why does it often take an illness, depression and crisis to get us to focus on our wellness?
We are human after all. We tend to learn best from our so called mistakes. It's a natural feedback system of fine tuning and adjustment. We can only go around the unhealthy merry go round so many times before we get dizzy and get off or life knocks us off.
So I asked myself, what is it that keeps my motivation high for meditation, healthy eating, exercise and soulful living? Well partly because I don't want to be the dentist with the rotten teeth! We teach best what we live and breathe ourselves. But mostly because I got to hold the hands of many people who lay on their death beds and encouraged me to honour my body and soul like a living temple. For a girl in her early twenties this was welcome advice that motivates me still to this day.
The happiest and healthiest people I know have seen someone face illness and it has touched them deeply or they have been nudged by illness themselves. Others just love the way a healthy lifestyle filled with meditation, healthy food, exercise and soulful connections makes them feel. Whether we are motivated by keeping illness at bay or by the boundless energy and contentment of a life filled with meditation and wellness, it works best when woven into our daily lives.
Tip 1 - Find your motivating factor - There are a few main things that kick start our motivation for meditation and wellness and keep them humming along at a healthy level.
a. The feedback from our body/mind when we nourish ourselves.
b. Wellness mentors or wellness coaches who inspire us.
c. The presence of illness.
d. The presence of suffering.
All of these keep us focused on our priorities. I suggest starting with a and b to keep c and d at bay.
Tip 2 - Weave your meditation into your daily life. Meditate for a minimum of 15 mins morning and night. We all have 24 hours in a day and can spare 30 mins. But even more importantly meditate when ever you are waiting. Waiting in a queue, waiting for a website to download, waiting at the traffic lights (keep your eyes open), waiting for your four year old to put their shoes on. It only takes a second to take a deep breath and scan your inner being to check in with your inner needs. Also when you are outside in nature. Take a few seconds to breathe in the fresh air and be present to all you are experiencing. Then when you get better at 'checking in' when you are doing nothing start checking in when you are doing something. Eating, bathing, working, cleaning, breast feeding, walking. Be fully present with whomever you are talking to. Be fully present with the task you are undertaking. It is the little moments that join together to eventually become a day filled with a meditative outlook that has the biggest impact in our lives. One step at a time. Enjoy!
I would love to here what works for you on the comments below.
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