Do you often see people online or in real life living amazing lives and wonder if their lives really are that good or are they just filtering out the crappy stuff?
There is a HUGE amount of filtering going on in social media and in our lives in general that there are very few people keeping it real.
Especially in the personal and business development scene it is filled with shiny promises and photos of people “living the dream” but they are not necessarily free behind the scenes.
I have been guilty of this too over the years and have been afraid of sharing certain unpleasant or challenging aspects of my life for fear that it will deter people from wanting to work with me.
However, as I have become more transparent and more real in my sharing, I've found that YES it may turn some people away but being completely authentic in our business attracts much more aligned clients and business experiences to us.
The more we hide behind a persona in our business and our life in general… the more we attract clients or friends/partners who are also not fully aligned with their word.
They don't follow through with what they say they are going to do. Clients don't pay what they have committed to pay, they don't put in the effort they committed to put in, they don't take action on your guidance and wonder why they haven't gotten results.
Our clients often mirror how true and real we are being and show us how authentic are message is.
Ahhh gotta love the mirrors!
So today I want to share some of the realities behind the scenes of living my dream life to inspire you to show up with more authenticity and truth in your business too.
Those of you who have been following me for a while will know that I am currently escaping the Melbourne winter and living/working in France with my partner Matt (who also has an online biz), our 18 month old daughter Ruby and we have another bub due in Dec. Really fun and exciting stuff!
Just 3 years ago I was living a happy and simple life but was being nudged my life to expand and grow to new levels. I was pretty broke, single and only dreaming of the full and abundant life that I have now.
Over the last few years I have met my soul mate, grown my business to new abundant levels, we bought our dream home on 3 acres overlooking the sea, I have travelled regularly, had a baby and conceived another. I work just part time and have the freedom to enjoy being with my family and have the spacious lifestyle I've always been accustomed to.
It really is an absolute dream come true for me! However, what does 'the dream' look like behind the scenes?
I can't speak for other entrepreneurs out there claiming to be “living the dream” but I have seen the struggles that many face when they become my clients and they share the real truth.
So what are my struggles behind the scenes of my shiny dream life?
One of the biggest stressors in my life at present is adjusting to being a mother. One and a half years in and I still find myself craving more alone time, I struggle to find a suitable balance of time in my business and time with my daughter. She always gets my presence as number one priority but I often have so much drive in my business that sometimes it feels like I have to hold back flood gates of inspiration and this can be frustrating.
Then when I finally find a good balance, her needs change so I am constantly shifting my routine to accommodate this. I haven't yet fully relaxed into the constantly changing demands of parenthood. It's a continual dance that sometimes I fight more than I flow with. I am determined to be more at peace with this dance before the next bub arrives but it's a constant work in progress.
Another stressor behind the scenes is different parts of my business slowing down to allow other new and exciting parts to emerge. 90% of the time I run my business completely intuitively but there is still maybe 10% of me that loves to try and control things from my head. This 10% is enough to create an internal battle that will sometimes fight the natural flow. I get stressed when areas of my biz I've put a lot of energy into don't fly... UNTIL I finally allow the light bulb to go on and surrender to the new direction that life is taking me.
For example when I was counselling and living in Byron Bay, I was resisting creating an online biz for a few years because I didn't like technology and wanted to keep my biz face to face and 'pure'. But my face to face clients dropped off and I kept getting contacted for Skype sessions. Life was guiding me to have a greater and more global reach and when I finally made friends with my laptop and online marketing my business and life opened up in extra-ordinary ways.
When I was living in Bali with my online coaching biz, I was resisting offering business coaching, even though many of my clients were asking for it, because I was attached to my identity as a spiritual guide and mentor not a business person. When I finally surrendered to offering
business mentoring my business income instantly tripled and I found a
whole new love for the power of business as a transformational catalyst.
My business has slowed once again in the mentoring of new entrepreneurs but is opening up for doing deep transformational work with more experienced entrepreneurs. I've been fighting this transition once again and it's been stressful! Ahhh but I've recently just surrendered to this new direction and am trusting the flow once again. I can be a stubborn little chicken at times... but I'm fully listening again!!!!! Ha!
BUT the most challenging stressor in living my dream life is I can often feel uncomfortable by regularly stepping out of my comfort zone. I have committed fully to living my highest potential which means I am forever needing to let old parts of me die for new parts to emerge. There is no real identity to stick to, as I allow my beliefs, patterns and priorities to be constantly shifting and changing as I evolve. Yep damn uncomfortable but over time I am finding more comfort in the discomfort as I've seen it create magic in my life over and over again. Creating the life of our dreams is certainly not for the faint of heart... but is soooooo worth it.
So my sharing today is a transparent offering to reveal some of the behind the scenes stressors that can still exist even when you are living your dream life. AND to inspire you to show up in even greater alignment and authenticity in your own life.
Wherever there is frustration, stagnancy or lack of flow in your business and life... it is an indicator that you are out of alignment and not fully hearing the guidance of your intuition.
One of my gifts is to help my clients see where they our out of alignment and to bring absolute clarity to the their mission, gifts, strengths, desires and forward steps.
If you'd like some support to move into greater alignment you can book in a FREE CLARITY SESSION to allow the peace, joy, cash and clients to flow!