My current pregnancy nesting energy has made it surprisingly easy to settle straight back into Melbourne life. I've been getting back into a new healthy routine with some nice new boundaries in place ready for this new phase in both my family life and my business.
A big theme amongst many of my clients lives and business growth at the moment is mastering the art of setting boundaries.
Most of you heart felt high achievers will have learned to set boundaries over the years to get to where you are now... but if you are ready for the next expansion in your business and life... your boundaries need to keep developing, shifting and becoming clearer.
It is impossible to create our dream business and life without clear boundaries in place... but it is an area that many of us struggle with.
It is one of the big reasons we stunt our growth in business and life.
We wonder why we feel so tired, stressed and overwhelmed with everything there is to do.... but if we just did two simple things more often there would be much greater peace, joy and success flowing through our lives.
So how do we do it?
How do we master this art of setting boundaries when we can find ourselves automatically saying YES YES YES and later regretting our commitment....and we are surrounded by people who are used to us being there endlessly?
I was one of the biggest people pleasers out there. I was addicted to saying YES to others needs at the expense of my own! If some-one needed anything I was the go to person for many.
Hello burnout and hidden resentment bubbling away!
There were two things that I learned to do to transform my relationship with myself and thus learn to honour my needs first and foremost.
I thought that I had mastered boundaries when I was single and running my own business but an intimate relationship and motherhood have inspired me to take this mastery to new heights and of course as my business grows they need to keep constantly evolving.
This is what I do daily to ensure I keep my needs looked after and boundaries set around my precious time and energy.
1. Keep your eyes on your goals daily. Each time we say YES to some-one else we often say NO to our own goals and dreams. So if I have got my goals and dreams in the forefront of my mind it is 10 times easier to say NO instead of letting the automatic habit of YES to take over.
2. Ask... what do I need today to take steps towards my dream? This must be the first question we ask ourselves in the morning. Both our business, mental health and personal life will have needs that need to be compromised with all of the demands from family, friends and the outside world... however when you are clear on what you need and hold it close to your heart you can ensure that YOUR NEEDS are central to each and every decision made.
3. Pause before you answer requests. In the past my head would say YES before my heart and intuition had a chance to state it's needs. If we give ourselves time to stop, take a breath and ask more deeply whether a request is good for us, our intuition will always have an answer that is aligned with our goals, needs and true mission.
4. Congratulate yourself every time you honour YOU and YOUR dream. When we shift our boundaries to align with our new business and lifestyle dreams there will be people who will need to get used to your new way of being. When we place the focus on our execution of a new habit rather than other peoples response to it, it keeps propelling us forward instead of giving us an excuse to stay stuck in old outdated patterns.
Finally... if you find yourself saying "I don't have time" for your priorities on a regular basis... it is a clear sign your boundaries need to shift to make room for your dream to unfold.
Setting clear boundaries is one of the most powerful skills I have developed over the years to be crazy in love with my life AND it is one of the most powerful skills that I guide my clients to master.
What are your business and life goals to reach before the end of 2017? It's not to late to make your 2017 dream a reality!
If you are ready to make the internal shifts required to be in full alignment with your business/life goals... if you're finally ready to believe in yourself like never before, develop new habits required to increase your income, increase your spare time and super charge your life fulfilment... I have some 3 and 6 session packages available before my baby arrives in Dec.
Hop to it! Your dream life awaits!
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