Any of the clarity and radiance that I have uncovered in life has come from the courage to dive into my darkness and to see through the drama into the bliss that lies beneath. The darkness will continue to arise as long as we are human and here on earth, just like the darkness will come each night, yet our willingness to embrace darkness improves as we awaken.
Lately I have been walking through the swampland of my soul... the dark place where shame lives. Shame is the false believe that “I am bad” that we try and cover up and hide away. I have walked in the muddy waters of shame before but a recent reaction in my life invited me to wander through a new part of this shame.
In the past I would have avoided exploring shame at all costs but after experiencing the wildly liberating relief and earth shattering power that emerges from visiting shame's swamplands, this time I was excited to return!
Deep breath and here we go!
Gum boots, check, waterproof pants, check, big flashlight, check, all the courage and surrender I can muster, check and a supportive soul to walk with me. Then I was ready to dive into the swamp of shame! SPLASH! YUK!
On the surface of my life I had noticed a shut down, defensive and soul deflating insecurity that was emerging in me, triggered by a new relationship! Ahhhh romantic relationships are always a good area to reflect to us the parts of ourselves that we don't yet accept.
Just when I thought I had accepted all of who I am, life unfolds to show me otherwise. Such surface behaviours are always a signpost that some darkness is lurking below and is ready to be released. Often we can run like a looney away from the pain but it only drives it deeper. We need to face it like a warrior of light!
In the swamp I discovered the dirty scum of unworthiness, the stinky waters of feeling like a 'bad person', there were the twisted dead trees of criticism and defensiveness. Oh the liberating stench of shame that has been locked away for way too long! I release you! Breathe, open, surrender! Breathe, open, surrender!
No amount of pretending and smily faces on the surface can hide shame within. It's like trying to polish a turd... it can't be done! (Ha sorry for the crass-ness but it's true!) Instead we need to put on the protective boots of curiosity, walk through the shit until we reach the sparkly diamond that lies beneath.
I have emerged from the swamplands this week with a greater trust, surrender, peace and acceptance of life! Sparkliness plus!!!!
Signs to show you are ready
to enter the swamp of your soul!
As a fellow human, therapist and lover of the adventures within our heart and soul, I have dedicated my life to face whatever arises each day whether it be uncomfortable, downright painful or warm and fluffy! I am so excited to share my discoveries and be your tour guide of the inner swamps! Get in there people... it is the most liberating thing you can do!
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