We are social creatures who (especially in western culture) all too often isolate ourselves.
Everyone for themselves... seems to be our motto at times!
Do you ever feel alone in your struggle? Do you ever yearn for intimacy, support, community and connection?
After spending years listening to people on their death beds this was an area many regretted developing... surrendering to openness, vulnerability and the profound richness of regularly connecting with our tribe (community).
Hang on a minute while I put my undies on the outside and show you what a superwoman I can be! Dood do dooooo! Look at me fly!
BUT BUT BUT.... on the inside I was yearning to be held, heard, seen and supported in the same way that I supported so many around me.
It took me a while (and I continue to surrender to this one!) to realise that an even greater strength can emerge when we burst through the layer of shame and share our own personal struggles.
The courage to be open, vulnerable and to ask for help are superpowers that are all too often overlooked. They have been labelled as weakness in a world where toughness appears to triumph over tenderness!
The key is in the dance of the duality. Toughness and tenderness. Aloneness and togetherness!
We need to honour the power, importance and growth within both sides of the coin.
I don't regret for a second the deep strength and inner wisdom that was uncovered when stepping out in this world alone, yet a whole new depth of wisdom has arisen now I regularly reach out and connect openly and intimately with those around me.
3 steps to create a super supportive tribe
1. Trust your instincts - Your intuition is always offering guidance and moving you towards the people, places and experiences that will allow like minded connections to occur. Stop second guessing and doubting its pointers. It will lead you home every time!
2. Know thyself - Spend time alone meditating/journalling and getting to know your own feelings, thoughts, dreams, yearnings and instincts. It is hard to be open and vulnerable if we don't even know where we are at ourselves. When we have learnt to be open and supportive of our own inner world we will attract those around us who support us in a similar way! Hello mirrors!
2. Love thyself - Learn to love all of your faults, annoying bits, quirky traits, neurotic tendencies, deep shame and everything in between. We are all mad crazy nut cases on the inside and the sooner we are at peace with our weirdness the sooner we can dance and play with similar weird ones and enjoy this wild play with our fellow tribe! Woohoo!
It's true! I have the blessing in my 'work' to be granted permission into people's darkest inner worlds. Even the people you think are the most 'together'... they are nut cases too! Ha! Myself included! The key is to love and accept it... all of it. I can help you with this challenging one. It's easier said than done! Come on the Wellness Adventure or book a coaching session and lets dance in the mud together! You deserve the depth of connection that you yearn for.
I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments below and please share the love (this article) with your tribe!