I have been stung lately by the whipping tail of rejection in a few areas of my life! Whickishhhhh! (insert sound of whip) Ouch! But although it is a bit painful on the surface, I acknowledge that the very feeling of rejection is a beautiful sign that our hearts are open and we have thrillingly plunged courageously into the fullness of life. We have risked feeling a fleeting whip of pain by following our heart's call and our instinct's nudge. Give me a big hunk of rejection any day over the weight of regret!
I spoke on my blog a few weeks back about the many gems I gathered when working with the dying and one of the common themes that emerged was regret. Many of the dying would describe a life of playing it safe and avoiding rejection only to be riddled with regret on their death beds! “Oh if only I had done this or said that, if only I had followed my instinct to do this and do that”... they would say! Super dooper ouch! Amazing how we can reject our own inner most yearnings to avoid outward rejection.
Witnessing this many times over dosed me up with overflowing inspiration to keep regret at bay and dedicate my life to being authentically open, wildly honest and courageously vulnerable in my friendships, relationships and work pursuits (constant work in progress!). It has inspired me to make the most of opportunities that arise and to live life following my instincts... even if this means exposing myself to rejection.
I read recently about a man who undertook a 100 day rejection challenge! The mad nut! Ha! Each day he would make a different unlikely request in public in order to become more comfortable with hearing 'no'. One request was to ask if he could sing a song to customers in a department store over the loud speaker.
He said in the beginning of his 100 day challenge he was timid, apologetic and wanted to get outta there fast... but he soon learnt to negotiate and joke with the people and walk away intrigued and amused. He also found that he started to get 'yes' responses to his crazy requests. He knocked on a strangers door and asked if he could play soccer in his backyard and the guy said “sure can I join you?” Love it!
His 100 day challenge was a great way for him to learn to not take himself seriously. To see the playfulness in life and to roll with the so called rejections. He reported that due to the challenge he developed a huge resilience when making any genuine heartfelt requests and bold actions in his personal and business life.
I love this example because it points to the playful dance of life and the ultimate truth that in essence there is no such thing as rejection. On the surface of course we appear to be rejected so we are tricked into creating feelings of rejection or abandonment, but at the core of who we are... we cannot be rejected, have not ever been rejected and will never be rejected. Our essence is rooted in the source of all life where a deep acceptance of all things resides.
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