Have you ever had a goal or a dream that you felt frozen in because you were riddled with self doubt?

Has self doubt ever stopped you from living the life you want?

Is self doubt the chain around your ankles that holds you back from your dreams?

Usually doubt is seen as the heavy weight that slows us down in life.  The evil curse of the mind that we are told to get rid of at all costs.

It says to us, "You can't do it.  You're not going to make it.  That's impossible. You're not good enough to do this.  You don't have what it takes to do that.  Blah blah blah and on goes the words of doubt in your head!"

We are told to fight it, karate chop it, wrestle it, swear at it and tape it's mouth shut!

But that doesn't work and just seems to only fuel it even more!

ALAS!

There is another way to approach self doubt where we use it as rocket fuel to propel us in the direction of our dreams.

Ever felt the deep pain of someone leaving your life?  

Has someone close to you died?  

Have you ever felt the heartache of a relationship ending?  

Oucharama!  Yes of course you have... you are human... and it is natural for all of the things and the people that we love to come and go at some stage.

The abandonment wound within us all is a deeeeeeeep one!  It's as deep as the Grand Canyon and as wide as the Pacific Ocean!   

Going into the wound is one of the most courageous things we can ever do.  So we often avoid it at all costs! 

It shows up on the surface of our lives as mental obsessions (aka super busy mind!), addictions (pass me another block of chocolate now, oh heck make it a wine or ten!), neurotic tendencies (I will work myself into the ground trying to be a superhuman who's not allowed to make a mistake!), control behaviours (life must go the way I want it to or look out!)... all in the attempt to avoid the pain of abandonment lurking within.

NEWS FLASH! It is essential for us to face the pain of abandonment, to uncover the illusion of it and reveal the connectedness of life.  In fact it is vital if we are to be truly happy and free.

Do you ever feel like the grass is greener on the other side?

Ever feel like you can't say no to things encase you miss out on something amazing?  

Tired of looking at other people's lives and feeling like yours is lacking?

This common mind game is affectionately known as MOS (Missing Out Syndrome).  

It is the natural response when envy and insecurity hang out together! They create a dizzying cocktail of anxiety and restlessness.  

I love the analogy that searching for god / fulfillment / our true selves is like a fish searching for the ocean. 

Are you the type of fish that is tired of swimming frantically from reef to reef looking for the ocean? 

Are you unconsciously following the school of fish and living your life based on societies rules rather than your own guidance?

Would you like to fully realise that you already ARE the ocean of love that you seek?

Would you like to swim playfully through the ocean, at peace and in flow with the oceans cycles instead of against the currents?

Do you ever not feel heard? Words are coming out of your mouth but the other person appears to be too caught up in their own thoughts to be really listening to you!

Say what!?!

The art of listening is one of the most powerful skills that you can master in life.  Listening to others, listening to your inner yearnings, listening to your body, listening to nature.  Relationships thrive when we learn to listen with not just our ears but our heart and soul.   

Some of our most profound healing can occur when you are in the presence of somebody who really hears you.   

Ever feel like you are similar to the lone ranger forging through life mostly alone? Doododoooo! Hiho silver away!

Even if you are surrounded by people, do feel supported and inspired to live your full potential and shine like the diamond that you are?

Have you ever gone through a really hard time and you weren't sure who to turn to?

Support is one of those things that we all yearn for.

As humans we are mostly social creatures and we often thrive when we are a part of a supportive community.

We need to balance our alone time with time surrounded by a supportive tribe.  Time alone is important to learn to find peace, happiness and strength within however behind every great achievement is a great support team. 

Nature knows that it cannot thrive alone... it requires the interaction of all the elements to live at its full potential.  Ecosystems are natures support systems for life. 

Have you ever felt disappointed in how things have turned out in your life circumstances? 

Of course you have at some stage or another... you are human right! 

We have all felt that heaviness of disappointment when we expected things to turn out differently than they did. 

Expectations and disappointment are good friends... they seem to hang out in the same places together. Where there is expectation you will find disappointment lurking just around the corner.   

At work, at home, on holidays, in your relationships... you name it, if expectation is present, disappointment will be likely to follow.